So there are 20 (or more) gifts of the Spirit!

Apostles-----------------------------1

Prophets----------------------------2

Teachers----------------------------3

Miracles-----------------------------4

Gifts of Healing------------------5

(Helps)-------------------------------6       Service

(Administrations)---------------7

Kinds of Tongues---------------8

Interpretation of Tongues--9

Exhorting

Giving                                        to Give, to Share

Leading                                     Pastors

One who shows Mercy

Evangelist

Word of Wisdom

Faith

Distinguishing of Spirits

The first nine are in order in relation to each other. The relation of the others as for which are more important than any others in the full list is to be determined by you.

As for the question of if the gifts are still for this day, for one check out and read between the lines of I Cor 13. Also, even though Steven was not an apostle, he still had the gifts. This shows that the gifts did not die out with the apostles.

I would refer you to one page of Pastor Jim Feeney, PhD - The Gifts of the Holy Spirit are for Today! 

However, I would agree with the stance that speaking in tongues is not necessarily the first sign of being baptized in the Holy Spirit. A series of events in the Bible should not be our basis for theology statements without some theology statement from the Bible.

And going further, I am in agreement with Dr. Charles Stanley, that the Baptism of the Holy Spirit occurs when you are saved.

Now whether you continue on to be filled with the Holy Spirit and stay filled with the Holy Spirit is entirely up to you. And definitely speaking in tongues is not a requirement for salvation! That would be a heretical interpretation of some out-of-context verses!

So what is important if you are saved is to be filled with the Holy Spirit (Be not drunk with wine, but be filled with the Holy Spirit.) So what is stopping you from praying to be filled with the Holy Spirit right now? Abide in the Vine, Dwell in the Spirit, Rest in Him, and be filled with the Holy Spirit could all be different ways to say the same thing.

Would I shun someone who believes differently? No. Would I shy away from telling them how I believe? Not that either. We all have experienced the Holy Spirit in different ways for the most part. To judge someone else's experience based on my experience would get me into a bad practice. Again, seek for you yourself to be filled with the Holy Spirit!

Related is Are Tongues a Gift for Today? But don't miss Secret Church 5: Exploring the Holy Spirit